Loving Yourself- Nighttime Self Care Routine

“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people”


Valentine’s day is coming up. Before you can spread the love to others, you must be sure to take care of yourself. This is my extended body care routine. My hair care is a whoooole other story, so that wont appear here! Stay tuned.

1. Make a cup of tea.

Before anything can happen, tea.

2. Tidy up.

Having a clear space will give you a clear mind. Before I can begin to relax for the evening, I put away any clutter that has accumulated during the day.

3. Prepare clothes

I set out my clothes for the next day and take my pyjamas to the bathroom.

4? Dry brush

Theoretically I am assisting my lymph glands. At the very least I am giving myself a good scrub. I don’t do it as often as I should.

5. Silk towel scrub

If I don’t use my dry brush I use a Japanese 100% silk towel and my soap to scrub my whole body.

6. Wash face

I like to wait until my skin is warm and damp from the shower, and do an oil cleanse, then use my cream cleanser.

7. Facial exfoliation

To prep my skin for a face mask I use a physical or chemical exfoliator. Be careful not to scrub your face too hard, which can cause more harm than the good it does.

DIY facial scrub: mix white sugar and sweet almond oil.

8. Face mask

Depending on what my face needs at the time I will use a moisturizing or detoxifying mask.

9. Moisturize the body.

I prioritize getting moisture on my face over my body when I step out of the shower. Since I don’t want to over-dry my skin, I just pat dry my body, leaving my skin slightly damp. I tend to mix homemade body oil with my moisturizer.

DIY body oil: 1:3 parts jojoba oil to sweet almond oil. I like to add lavender, ylang-ylang, and orange blossom essential oils

10. Warm clothes.

If I am lucky and the heat is going off while I shower, I put my clothes on the heater!




11. Positive affirmations/ gratitude

Before I fall asleep I try to review what I am grateful for to put myself in the right mindset, and to relax.

Happy pampering!


Products I use:

4. Dry Brush: Dry Brushing Body Brush – Natural Boar Bristle Dry Brush Set for Body and Face Brushing – Skin Brush that Revitalizes and Rejuvenates – Aids Lymph Flow, Alleviates Cellulite and Eliminates Toxins


6. Cream cleanser: Evanhealy Rose Cleansing Milk 4 Ounce Cleanser


7. Physical scrubSkinfood Black Sugar Mask Wash Off Exfoliator, 3.53 Ounce

Chemical ScrubAmorePacific Treatment Enzyme Peel 1.7 oz

Find a smaller version here: AmorePacific Cleanse. Hydrate. Perfect. 4 Pc Travel Set – Beauty Insider

Almond oil: NOW Sweet Almond Oil, 16-Ounce


8. Face masks

Purifying: Fig+Yarrow Clay Mask | Rose 1.2 oz

Moisturizing: Fresh Rose Face Mask With Soothing Rose Petals, Travel Size

Sheet masks:

SNP Gold Collagen Ampoule Mask

SNP Charcoal Mineral Black Ampoule Mask 10 sheets

9. Body Lotion- AHAVA Dead Sea Water Mineral Body Lotion





Disclaimer: These are links to actual products I use! Many of the pricer items I received as samples from Sephora, but would repurchase once I am done. I have tried to find replacements for some, but my sensitive skin isn’t having it.

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Stop washing your hair. 

So frequently anyway. If you told baby ballerina Dagny this years ago, she would have laughed. Sometimes frequent washing is necessary, but trying to decrease washes will do your hair a world of good. Would you wash your favorite silk blouse everyday with hot water and chemicals? Probably not.

Washing your hair every day (or more) will dry out your hair. Not only are are you stripping your hair of its natural oils, but mechanical damage due to scrubbing and drying with a towel will cause wear and tear over time. Also, the hair shaft is particularly vulnerable when it is saturated with water.  Not to mention, you may end up having to heat style your hair more often, which leads to damage.

So how often should you wash your hair?

Ideally, 2-3 times a week. This will vary depending on your hair texture, level of physical activity, and the climate. Your scalp produces oils to nourish the hair. If the oil is continuously stripped away by harsh shampoo, your scalp will kick into overdrive to replace the oil. If you wash your hair everyday, try washing it every other day. After a while (be patient!) your scalp will realize it is not being stripped anymore and will produce less oil.


How to wash:

  • Try to use warm to cool water
  • Gently massage your scalp with the pads of the fingers, concentrating the shampoo at the scalp. If you don’t have any other product buildup in your hair, just let the shampoo run down when rinsing, instead of scrubbing the ends with the shampoo too. This will prevent the ends from over drying.
  • Once every week or two weeks mix 1-4 tablespoons of apple cider vinegar (preferably unfiltered) with 8 ounces of water. After shampooing, pour the mixture over your scalp and let sit for a few minutes. This will remove buildup, increase shine, and stimulate hair growth.
  • Do not apply conditioner to the scalp. Use it a few inches away from the root.
  • Never roughly dry your hair. Gently squeeze your hair with the towel. Using an old cotton t-shirt is a great way to reduce friction from drying.


Which shampoo should you use?

  • Try to avoid shampoos with sulfates, parables, and other harsh chemicals
  • Shampoo does NOT need to be expensive. Do not buy into pretty packaging with cheap ingredients.
  • Be sure to use a shampoo suited to your hair type. Using a very moisturizing shampoo on fine hair will result in weighed down, oily hair; etc.


Which shampoos do I use?

I rotate my shampoos depending on if I oiled my hair or not. Shampoo bars are great for those who do not use many products. They don’t quite get all of the coconut oil out after a heavy oiling day though. Natural shampoos bars are chemical free, gentle, portable, and last for a long time. Some “traditional” liquid shampoos I use are the African Black Soap Shampoo from Shea Moisture, and the Argan Hydrating Volume Moisture Shampoo by Deep Steep. As stated in the name, the Deep Steep shampoo is moisturizing and looks like conditioner. I follow up with the corresponding conditioner from the line. The Shea Moisture shampoo is clarifying without over-stripping my hair. All of these shampoos are under $12. I usually get my Shea Moisture products when Duane Reade has a 3 for 2 deal. Deep Steep occasionally goes on sale in Whole Foods. I buy my shampoo bars from Chagrin Valley, a family owned bath and body company. I have never gone wrong with any of their products. They provide a lot of information on their website if you are interested in shampoo bars!





Chagrin Valley Soap and Salve: http://www.chagrinvalleysoapandsalve.com

Deep Steep Shampoo: https://www.amazon.com/Deep-Steep-Argan-Hydrating-Shampoo/dp/B016IQTLJA?th=1

Shea Moisture Shampoo: https://www.sheamoisture.com/african-black-soap-deep-cleansing-shampoo.html


This is not a sponsored post. I use these products because I like them and they work for me. 

Skincare Basics


No matter who you are, having a skincare routine will do wonders for your skin. Consistency, not complexity, is key. These are the steps that I believe are essential for a basic skincare routine.

Note: In this post I will just talk about basics. I will do in-depth posts about each of these steps in the future, where I will also recommend products.


0/ remove makeup (optional)

If you wear makeup, it is a good idea to use a makeup remover in addition to a cleanser. I use a water based remover then an oil based remover to make sure all of my make up is dissolved before I cleanse.

1/ cleanse

Pick a cleanser designed for your skin type (dry, oily, combination, normal, etc.). You want to avoid cleansers that make your face feel tight or dry. This does not mean that they are “more effective.” In fact, you could be stripping your skin of much needed oils, and disrupting the naturally acidic pH of the skin. Maintaining the “acid mantle” is essential for maintaining optimal skin health. Feel free to use more than one cleanser depending on what is needed at that time. When I use face makeup, in addition to removing the makeup, I use a cleansing milk and a foaming cleanser to ensure absolutely all traces of makeup are removed. However, I do not need to cleanse so deeply if I don’t wear makeup.

2/ tone

Toners are designed to equalize the skin’s pH after cleansing. Toners also help remove any residue left over from cleansing, or residual makeup. As someone with sensitive skin, alcohol based toners irritate my skin. I opt for rose water instead. Keeping your face damp when applying products helps them to sink in more effectively.

3/ serum

Serums are designed to deliver a dose of concentrated nutrients. They can be used to treat specific skin issues such as dark spots, scarring, or wrinkles. I mix a cocktail of oils depending on my skin’s needs. Think of skincare like food. You wouldn’t eat the same exact thing everyday, why feed your skin the same thing? Some oils I keep in rotation include rosehip oil, argan oil, seabuckthorn oil, pomegranate oil, and neem oil.

4/ moisturize

After applying serum, you may need to apply a layer of moisturizer. Since moisturizer acts as a protective barrier for you skin, all of your lighter weight products should be applied before hand. Generally, I find a few drops of oil mixed into a spritz of rosewater to be moisturizing enough. If I need it, I apply lightweight moisturizer on top.

5/ eyes

Your eyes get quite the work out during the day. If you are younger, you may not need to think about eye cream yet. However, you should be aware that the skin around your eyes is particularly thin. Although expensive eye creams may seem like a gimmick, the reason it is a separate product from face cream is that you do not want to put a very heavy products onto your eye area. This could result in milia, or tiny bumps around the eyes. Dot and pat in eye cream, do not drag your eye area.

twice-thrice weekly

1/ 1.5 exfoliate

Exfoliation is key to make the rest of your skincare regime effective. By removing dead skin cells, not only are products are able to penetrate the epidermis more effectively, but your skin will look brighter. There are chemical and physical exfoliants. Those with sensitive skin should also exfoliate. Chemical exfoliates can be the more gentle option for exfoliating.

once a week or as needed

1.5/ apply a mask

Using a mask once a week, or as needed helps target specific issues like breakouts or dryness. Masks should be done after cleansing, and possibly after exfoliating. A gentle exfoliation before a mask can help the mask sink in better.

general skincare rules

consistency is key.

Think of skincare as self care. Treat your body well, it goes through a lot.

prevent, don’t correct.

This ties into consistency. If you stick to your routine, and allow it to change and adjust as you age, this will be much better than having to correct skin issues after they happen.

more does not equal better.

A longer ingredients list does not make for a more effective product. Since your body absorbs what you put onto it, try to use natural products where you can. Additionally, you do not want to over stimulate your skin. This could mean using less products, or skipping cleanser in the morning and opting for just water.

lighter to heavier.

The order of products applied should be from lightest to heaviest. Think, your water-like toner goes under a gel serum, which goes under a thick cream. Because you may be paying a lot of money for the products, you want to make sure you put them on in a way that they work most effectively.

miracle products do not exist.

I’m sorry to say this, but there is no fountain of youth. There is no miracle cream. The best thing you can do is start a consistent and effective routine today. Everybody’s skin is unique, so a product that works for your best friend may not be right for you, no matter how much she raves about it.

don’t buy into it.

While having a shelf of matching products may look pretty, do not think you need to buy every product from the same company. There are so many options for products, find the ones that work best for you.

natural vs. chemical laden products.

Try to switch to natural products where you can. I won’t demonize innovative skin care solutions, however, “less is more” tends to be a good mantra for skincare. Also, many products will feature a special ingredient but use a ton of fillers. Remember that ingredients are listed from higher concentration to lower concentration. Why buy an argan oil hair serum full of chemicals when you can buy pure argan oil? While “natural” products tend to be more expensive upfront, they are generally better for your health in the long run, and the higher concentration of the active ingredient means repair, not a temporary fix. Familiarizing yourself with chemicals to avoid will also help when your are purchasing new products.

skincare > makeup.

The better you take care of your skin the less make up you may want to use. Personally, I never wear full face makeup, maybe some concealer for pimples or around my nose. I don’t want to suffocate my skin in chemicals, and I have gotten to a place with my skincare in which I feel comfortable without makeup. Remember, applying makeup could irritate your skin more as you try to cover it. While I am not telling anyone that they should or shouldn’t wear make up, I believe that skincare should be prioritized. If makeup makes you feel more confident, go for it!

know a.m. vs. p.m. products.

Some products with active ingredients can make your skin more sensitive to sun, or shouldn’t be combined with other products or they will inactive each other. Be sure to do your research when using specialty treatments.

hands off!

We are all guilty of touching our face through out the day. However, this could make our skin more prone to breakouts by stimulating sebaceous glands or spreading bacteria. Think about all of the things you touch throughout the day! You don’t want that on your skin.

germs can transfer other ways too.

Cellphones, pillowcases, and towels are all objects that can easily transfer bacteria to our faces. Don’t forget to sanitize your phone once in a while, and try to change you pillowcases and face towels as often as possible.

it’s what’s on the inside that counts.

A huge part of skin health is your overall health. Bad diets and hormonal fluctuations can both impact the skin’s appearance. Drinking lots of water, avoiding sugar, alcohol, and processed foods, and eating a diet rich in fruits and vegetables all help with getting that “glow” from within.

sweat it out.

A great way to remove toxins from the body is exercise. The increased blood flow can also help the skin’s overall appearance by bringing oxygen and nutrients to the skin.

don’t forget the pantry.

Many natural skincare treatments are hiding in our kitchens! Try to incorporate simple yet effective natural DIYs. This can save you from nasty chemicals and spending on unnecessary products! Always research any body DIY thoroughly before you try it though. I found out that my face doesn’t like aloe vera gel the hard way.

most importantly- don’t stress it.

I know. It’s much easier said than done. But stress greatly affects your skin’s health in addition to other bodily processes. Also, your skin care regimen shouldn’t stress you out! Find a simple (or complex routine) that works for you. Take a few minutes out of your day to take care of yourself, and reap the benefits!

I am not loyal to any brand in particular, and this photo happened because I find these products to be particularly gentle yet effective for my skin. Two brands I feel confident recommending right now is Chagrin Valley and Evan Healy. Evan Healy products can be found in Whole Foods and other natural food stores.



Feel free to ask me any questions!



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